Magnetism Requires Boundaries
How I stopped abandoning myself to keep the peace.
Since this blog is about magnetism, I realized that it is my responsibility to warn you about the effects of having a magnetic aura. As your aura becomes more magnetic you are going to attract regulated people and dysregulated people. Dysregulated people are going to be attracted to your aura because they desire to experience the effects of a regulated nervous system without having to do any of the work. This is why it is imperative to have boundaries and consequences for when those boundaries get violated. I had an experience this past 4th of July weekend where my boundaries were violated and the experience has been so transformative that I had to share it with you all.
For this 4th of July we decided to go to a certain person’s house to have lunch. I know this person has a dysregulated nervous system because this person has been battling chronic illnesses for most of their life. Every time I interact with this certain person, they like to cosplay as if they have a regulated nervous system by mimicking my actions. I learned from a hypnotist that mimicking someone else’s actions can help you get on the same frequency as them.
In the past when I would interact with this certain person, they would mimic my actions during a visit then verbally attack me via text message after our interaction when they were done cosplaying. However this time, this certain person surprised me by verbally attacking me mid visit because they obviously couldn’t cosplay being regulated any longer. To be honest when your doing as much healing as I have been for the past 4 months (as I explained this blog post) it’s definitely going to bring up things in others that they have yet to heal.
Here’s what happened next: I didn’t react but the person I came there with did. As a matter of fact,the person I came there with started to defend me and to my surprise decided that we were going to leave immediately. At that moment my spirit was calm but my body was reacting: my heart was racing and my leg started shaking once we got into the car to leave. This distinction is important because my mind was able to dismiss the interaction quickly but my body recorded that interaction as a threat to my safety. So once I got home I proceeded to turn on the Nervous System Regulation subliminal and go on my walking pad to release any residual tension from that experience in order to return to my natural state.
Then a few hours later I receive a text from this person, playing the victim and blaming their actions on external circumstances. Then a few minutes later I receive another text, a fake apology. After I decided not to respond to both texts, about an hour later I received another text from this person promising that it won’t happen again. I still didn’t respond.
I didn’t respond to be spiteful, I chose not to respond because my body still didn’t feel safe. Had this person been sincere, they would have responded by apologizing first and taking full responsibility for their actions without having to promise it wouldn’t happen again. According to science, the only way my body can possibly feel safe around this person again is through the repeated experience of safe, predictable interactions. The repeated experience of safe, predictable interactions can only be created by a regulated nervous system.
This person continued to message me throughout the week, begging and pleading. By the end of the week I finally decided to respond. I responded calmly and respectfully by telling this person that I require space and not to message me unless it is important and I ended the message by thanking them for respecting my wishes. I haven’t heard from this person since.
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